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For the last couple of years, I have to admit that I’ve been bumbling around a bit, trying to figure out exactly what I want to be doing.  To be honest, I consider myself a failure in that I’ve achieved some of the goals I’ve set for myself, but they’ve only been small, average goals and I haven’t really set BIG goals.  Now, setting big goals in itself is not the important part.  People who tell you that big goals are what you need to really be successful tend to be stuck in an overly-positive delusional mode of thinking that is destined for failure.  I didn’t have that problem.

What I did have were fears of stepping out of my comfort zone and stepping up to the challenge of living up to my potential.  Having the ability to change your own mind is a lot of power… and a lot of responsibility.  It’s pretty comfortable to be just a regular guy, and much less intimidating.  I didn’t step up and do the things I knew I needed to do to get my ideas out there and make this site worth reading.  I pretty much kept my ideas–and my doubts–to myself.  The thing, though, is that I didn’t consciously dodge all this.  I didn’t intend to be lazy.  What happened–and this happens to everybody–was that I ran into a few emotional obstacles I had trouble tackling, and when I couldn’t seem to do anything about them I ignored them and lived my life around them.

That’s how the mind works, after all.  We build invisible walls around ourselves, all within our own mind.  We tend to avoid the things that make us uncomfortable or afraid, and that includes avoiding thinking about them.  Pretty soon, we’re thinking about anything BUT the things we’re avoiding and they tend to seem less important.

To get back on track, you have to start to look for those invisible walls.  That’s what I’ve been doing.  This post isn’t about me admitting to being a failure, however.  I don’t feel any shame for getting off track.  I realized shame is one of those things that gets in the way of getting back on track because if I can never admit that I screwed up, I can’t start honestly examining myself and where I’m at so I can make improvements.  I’m not obligated to feel bad for not being perfect.

I’m writing this post to make an announcement.  It is time to change this site.  While I am probably going to re-do the look of the web site, what I really want to change is the content and some of the ideas.  You see, quite a bit of what I have up here was written several years ago.  At this point, many of my ideas have changed and matured along with my understanding.

I’m going to take everything down and start from scratch. I’ve struggled with making some important personal changes, and because I’ve struggled I’ve had to put a lot of work into understanding what really does and doesn’t work.  Working with other people can be rather easy since it’s easy to see someone else’s problems.  Being able to see through your own problems is a really tough one… but I find it’s a skill that can be learned if you know what to un-learn.

In the next month, I’m going to un-do this website.  Then I’m going to start doing things a better way.  I like you to join me.