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It’s a multi-billion dollar industry, you know.  There are thousands of different books, tapes, CDs and DVDs out there.  There are hundreds of different techniques and theories and guides on how to live the right way.  It can be pretty confusing.  And most of it is crap.

You see, the reason there is such a variety of viewpoints out there is that no one really knows for sure what works.  Most people just grasp at straws and are quick to celebrate anything that seems to work.  And then there’s the fact that people are desperate.  Desperate people do crazy things.

There’s an easy way to not get caught in it, though.  Read the rest of this entry »

Recently I worked 3D Mind with a great guy who’d made a mistake, and it cost him. There was a car accident and he was sober, but someone else died and so he went to prison for over a year. Obviously, it wasn’t a pleasant experience, but his time in prison isn’t the focus today. It’s how it affected him later and what the simple cause of his problem really was.

He came to me because he was afraid to go out on the town. He didn’t want to run into people who he’d worked with before he went to prison and lost his job and have to talk to them about it. He wasn’t comfortable talking to his friends about it either. Also, he was avoiding meeting up with a friend he’d made in prison who’d recently gotten out. My client had gotten a basic counseling certificate while in prison and discovered that he enjoyed helping people, so he wanted to help this friend adjust to life after prison.

But he kept avoiding all this with a desperate need to put it all behind him. Now, many people would say that putting it behind you is a good thing, and I generally agree, but the problem was that it was in front of him constantly. It was getting in the way of simple things he wanted to do, like meet up with old friends and continue on with his life. That’s where it crosses the line past regretting the past and causing a problem. Read the rest of this entry »

Psychology (with a bit of philosophy thrown in for fun) was originally my background, but I’m constantly reminded of why it just doesn’t work for me.  When I talk about changework methods being based on theory and fluff, what I really mean are that a LOT of experts just make stuff up.  I was reading a post in the Helping Psychology blog, sponsored by Argosy University, on “Why Negative Emotions Outlast Positive Emotions”.

You would expect some deep insight, and perhaps even some neuroscience to back it up.  Instead what you get is… Read the rest of this entry »

“Balancing” is one of the key 3D Mind terms used to describe the process of changing a limiting belief or emotional drive.  Tom and Kim state that it’s a matter of balancing between the more primitive reactive parts of the brain and the relatively newer creative/adaptive part of the brain responsible for reason and planning.  But what the heck does that mean, anyways?  And since it’s coming from a couple of people who are NOT doctors, aren’t they just making things up?

Well, no, it turns out.

http://www.reuters.com/article/scienceNews/idUSL2311107920070823

Researchers in London have found that different areas of the brain are dominant depending on how close a threat is.   I personally like how this article points out that a healthy response is the result of a balance between these two areas of the brain.  Now, the article states that researchers are suggesting that people with anxiety disorders have an imbalance that leans toward an overactive reactive part of the brain, but I would suggest that perhaps all emotional problems are like this.  After all, it’s not an on/off relationship between these opposing areas of the brain. Read the rest of this entry »